Are You Resentful?

“Resentment is like venom that continues to pour through your system, doing its poisonous damage long after being bitten by the snake. It’s not the bite that kills you; it’s the venom.” – Wayne Dyer

Are you still holding on to resentment towards someone that has wronged you?

Let’s be real here, we all carry around pain and hurt and it is doing more harm than good to our systems. We just have a hard time admitting it.  

According to Wayne Dyers analogy, a snake bite aka a bad experience may have happened once, but we have been holding on to the venom – pain or hurt, from the situation beyond the experience. If you choose to look at hurt that way, could you imagine, we have been walking around all this time with venom in our blood!

In reality, negativity is more damaging to our system than the actual incident that happened to us. Anyone who carries around this pain knows how overwhelming it could be at times. Most times you want to just explode from the hurt, but you just have to suppress it and keep it moving.

We don’t realize it, but this overwhelming negative emotion may have a negative impact on our relationships, our successes and our overall happiness. It may be the root to so many actions and reactions you have on a day to day basis, and you don’t realize it. Figuring out that this venom within you maybe killing the joy in your life can be the first step towards recovery. I don’t know about you, but I want to move on and find happiness.

So what is the antidote for the venom of negativity?

Forgiveness. Forgiveness towards someone who has wronged you can go a long way. You don’t have to tell them you forgive them, just tell yourself. Forgiveness can be what you need to purge the venom from your system.

Here are five quick steps to move you closer to forgiveness.

      1. Acknowledge it. Just admit it. You have been hurt, and you have been hurt badly.  You acknowledge and recognized that it has happened to you and it has become a part of you. It is OK to feel hurt from the experience.
      2. Move on. Simply choose to move on from the situation. Moving on means you choose not to let the situation define you and recognize that your life is more than just that one situation. You have had so many positive experiences and wins in your life, remember those, let them become part of your life picture. Choose to recognize the entire picture of your life versus just one chapter.
      3. Remember you. Who are you? What do you stand for? What makes you happy? Start to reconnect with you again. Start with remembering your dreams, hopes and desires for your life. Don’t let one setback keep you from going after all you wish and work for in your life.
      4. Reject Anger. When you feel that you are getting angry, try to push the feeling aside. This can be a hard task to master, but with practice you will overcome it. Focus on a task that will bring you some joy to combat the feeling of anger. When you feel anger coming in, listening to some of your favorite music, read something funny, overall distract yourself with something positive.
      5. Create Positive. Use a negative situation to create a positive ending. We all go through things that impact and hurt us to our core. Use these life changing negative situations to propel you towards a positive path in life. Share your experiences with others and how you have overcome them to help you heal. Someone else is hurting and have experienced hurt just like you have. Sharing how you have overcome hurt, or working to overcome it can help you feel better and help you heal. Knowing your are not unique in your experiences can help you create a positive emotion towards life.

Using these four quick steps towards forgiveness can hopefully help you move past your negative experience. Remember it will take work and it won’t happen overnight. So keep trying and you will eventually master the art of happiness through forgiveness. 




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